She Used Fantasy to Finish. Here's How She Stopped with Sharon Marie Scott
If you've ever needed your mind to "go somewhere else" to finish or you feel weirdly absent from your own pleasure you are not broken, and you are not alone. Sharon Marie Scott reveals why the brain hijacks arousal and walks through the surprisingly simple technique she used to get back into her body, plus the one Wednesday night rule that saved her marriage's physical connection. If you want to bridge the gap between you and your partner, start with the free Yes, No, Maybe Checklist at https://mylibidodoc.com/yesnomaybe/ — it’s a conversation starter that feels more like foreplay than homework.
Key Points
- Reclaiming erotic pleasure can often involve addressing mental barriers rather than physical ones.
- Using conscious breath and focusing on bodily sensations during self-pleasure can help disconnect fantasy from climax and enhance orgasmic potential.
- Communicating fantasies and exploring taboo desires with a partner can reignite passion and intimacy, even in long-term relationships.
About the Guest:
*Sharon Marie Scott Expertise: Sharon Marie Scott is an author, erotic mystic, and respected voice in kink, BDSM, and alternative lifestyle communities, where she has spent nearly two decades exploring the intersections of desire, consent, psychology, and spiritual growth.?Her forthcoming book, Forbidden Alchemy: Transmuting Taboo Into Erotic Medicine, traces her journey from early erotic shame to erotic sovereignty — offering a nuanced look at how taboo exploration, somatic awareness, and self-devotion can catalyze profound personal transformation.??Sharon is also the creator of The Pleasure Renaissance, a broader cultural initiative that reframes pleasure as a form of physiological intelligence and emotional wellbeing. Her work helps people cultivate a healthy relationship to pleasure by approaching it with presence, integrity, and self-respect.
Forbidden Alchemy: Transmuting Taboo Into Erotic Medicine (available anywhere books are sold, but here's the Amazon link): https://www.amazon.com/dp/1966346492 Website: www.sharonmariescott.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/sharonlifeturnedon/ YT: https://www.youtube.com/@lifeturnedon Substack: https://substack.com/@sharonmariescott Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lifeturnedon
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Timestamps:
0:00 Sharon Marie Scott on taboo, orgasm, and mental barriers
1:26 Introduction to today's topic and guest's journey
3:27 The impact of childhood trauma on adult sexuality
5:19 Techniques for disconnecting fantasy from climax and being present
7:22 The role of breath and body awareness in sexual pleasure
8:18 Understanding and addressing shame in sexuality
9:11 Applying techniques to partner play
13:38 Non-penetrative sex nights and their benefits
15:00 Sponsor: Mystery Vibes
18:27 Sponsor: Mature Allure
19:01 Balancing fantasy, real-life play, and BDSM
21:28 Addressing desire mismatch in long-term relationships
25:00 Overcoming erectile dysfunction in BDSM play
26:07 Rope play and taking responsibility for arousal
28:09 Using dance and kink to connect with your erotic self
29:31 Extending foreplay and non-traditional approaches
29:59 Announcement of part two with Sharon Marie Scott
30:21 Sharon Marie Scott's books and upcoming releases
31:39 Closing remarks and gratitude
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