What Does a Wife Need to Actually Want Sex? With Caroline Hood (Part 2)
If you've been waiting for the "right moment" to feel like lovers again instead of roommates, and it never seems to come, you're not broken, and you're not alone. In Part 2, Dr. Diane and Caroline Hood get practical: why spontaneity is mostly a myth (even early on), how scheduling sex builds anticipation instead of killing the mood, and the one honest sentence that lets you restart intimacy without a heavy, fraught conversation. If you don't know how to break the silence, bring the free Yes, No, Maybe Checklist to your next date night: mylibidodoc.com/yesnomaybe
Key Points
- Spontaneity is often a myth in long term relationships, and intentional scheduling can create more anticipation, safety, and better sex than waiting for the perfect moment.
- Flirting, talking about sex outside the bedroom, and using small everyday gestures help keep desire alive instead of saving intimacy for rare special occasions.
- Many people who think their desire is gone can rediscover that they are still sexual beings once they give themselves permission to explore, play, and name what they want.
About the Guest:
*Caroline Hood Expertise: Caroline Hood is a sex and relationships writer, speaker, and consultant exploring the deeply human realities of sex, desire, intimacy, and long-term love. A licensed clinical social worker and certified sex therapist, she draws on more than 25 years of professional experience to combine candid storytelling, clinical insight, and cultural critique that challenge conventional wisdom about relationships and female desire.
Caroline is the author of Sex Begets Sex and writes the newsletter Desire in Real Life, where she explores sexual agency, intimacy, and the cultural narratives that shape our relationships. She holds a bachelor's degree in Psychology from Columbia University, a Master of Social Work from the University of Southern California, and an Executive Leadership Certificate from Harvard University.
Originally from the United States and now based in Sydney, Australia, Caroline lives with her husband, their three children, and their two rescue dogs.
Website: www.desireinreallife.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/desireinreallife/ Substack: https://substack.com/@desireinreallife
Our Advocacy:
Our advocacy is centered around providing a supportive space for women to reclaim sexual vitality and joy for good. Help us achieve this by subscribing to our podcast and sharing us with your friends and family. 💖 Join our Next Libido Masterclass: https://mylibidodoc.com/masterclass 💖 Access Lab Testing: https://platinumself.circle.so/c/community
💥 Whenever we talk about products, we try to get you discount codes. Sometimes companies change the codes on us. To get the most up to date working coupon codes on products we recommend always go here: https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Products
Here is information about the penis pump and lady pump.
Coupon code: LibidoDoc10 for a 10% discount
Penis: https://doctorjoelkaplan.com/pages/autogro?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=948fa64f Studies on this product show effectiveness improving erectile dysfunction and increasing size without drugs or medication. Helping men be the hero in their bedroom.
Lady: https://theladypump.com/pages/lady-pump?a_aid=nzgdikssrskcdf&a_bid=2eecfcb8 Increases blood flow to the clitoris and vulva — enhancing sensitivity, arousal, and natural lubrication. A drug-free way to amplify sensation and make every touch feel more intense.
To get part 2 of this conversation including how to have the right kind of sex, how to have more pleasure and how to have conversations about sex that make women want more of it register for our libido club! https://MyLibidoDoc.com/Club
More Libido Lounge
✨ Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/ ✨ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@mylibidodoc ✨ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/ ✨ Join the Libido Club: https://mylibidodoc.com/Club/ ✨ Health Store: https://store.mylibidodoc.com/ ✨ Take Our Libido Quiz! https://t.ly/quoNU ✨ Auto GRO Men's Pump: https://link.urlfun.com/ujsvrpouu ✨ Stimulate Red Light Pump Accessory: https://link.urlfun.com/gdnfgwroh ✨ AndroDEEP Traction Extender: https://link.urlfun.com/zncbmgfrj ✨ Supplements: https://link.urlfun.com/tprmmtbai ✨ LadyPump: https://link.urlfun.com/drpeyytjy
Timestamps:
0:00 Spontaneity vs. Scheduling Sex: Why Intimacy Is Often Already Planned
2:18 Benefits of Scheduled Sex Over Waiting for Spontaneity
5:42 Lessons from Kink and Other Relationships: Anticipation and Safety
7:46 The Readiness Fallacy and Myths About Natural Desire Alignment
10:06 Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society, Penis Pumps, and Vulva Pumps
11:22 Practical Ways to Prioritize Intimacy Daily
13:11 Flirting, Talking About Sex, and Keeping Playfulness Alive
16:21 How to Start Flirting Again When It Feels Awkward
18:31 Surprising Discoveries About Desire in Midlife and Long-Term Relationships
20:21 Resources: Caroline Hood, Sex Begets Sex, and Desire in Real Life
Chapters
| 0:00 | |
| 2:18 | |
| 5:42 | |
| 7:46 | |
| 10:06 | |
| 11:22 | |
| 13:11 | |
| 16:21 | |
| 18:31 | |
| 20:21 |
Transcript
Loading transcript...