Libido Lounge
If your marriage still looks fine from the outside but something has quietly disappeared — this podcast is for you. Dr. Diane Mueller, Board Certified Sexologist, goes deep on what's really happening and what works
How to Fix a Dead Bedroom: A Sex Therapist Explains with Dr. Holly Richmond
If your bedroom has gone quiet and you’ve started to feel more like roommates than partners, you’re not broken and you’re not the only one. Sex therapist Dr. Holly Richmond explains why the real problem is almost never how often you have sex, how “duty sex” quietly builds resentment, and the first steps couples take to start wanting each other again. Take Dr. Diane’s free Sex Code Language quiz at mylibidodoc.com/libido-code to learn what turns each of you on and off, and where you’ve been missing each other.
Key Points
- A sexless marriage is usually driven less by frequency itself and more by hidden issues like poor communication, resentment, health factors, or unresolved sexual trauma.
- Many experiences that shape desire are micro traumas, especially moments of saying yes while wanting to say no, which can lead to duty sex, fawning, and building resentment instead of goodwill.
- Desire mismatches make more sense when couples understand their sexual templates, nervous system states, and the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, with toys and other tools serving as bridges rather than replacements.
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