Do this for 3% of the day to save your marriage with Monica Tanner Part 2
You lie next to someone you love and feel more like co-managers of a household than a couple — and you couldn't name the day it started. In this second part, Dr. Diane Mueller reframes the resentment you've been quietly swallowing as a warning light on the dashboard, not a death sentence — and shows how handing each other just 3% of your week patches the small leaks before the boat takes on real water. Before your next date night, grab her free Yes, No, Maybe Checklist (mylibidodoc.com/yesnomaybe) and use it to finally say the small things out loud — the ones that pile up when they stay unspoken.
Key Points
- Roommate syndrome occurs when couples stop being intentional about their connection, leading to feelings of disconnection and routine.
- Resentment serves as an indicator that something in the relationship needs attention and should be addressed skillfully before it escalates.
- Spending just 3% of your time intentionally connecting with your partner daily can significantly improve intimacy and prevent disconnection.
About the Guest:
*Monica Tanner Expertise: Monica Tanner, Relational Life Therapy Certified, Relationship Coach and host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast, transforms marriages with simple communication, connection, conflict resolution and commitment strategies. Her mission is to lower the divorce rate and improve marital satisfaction. Through her engaging podcast, new Amazon Best-Selling book, Bad Marriage Advice, vibrant social media community, and couple’s coaching practice, Monica's expert guidance has impacted thousands of couples, by helping them ditch resentment and roommate syndrome and get back to living their happily ever after love story. Website: https://monicatanner.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/monitalksmarriage 50 Connecting Questions to Ask Your Spouse - https://monicatanner.com/connect
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Timestamps:
0:00 Roommate syndrome and myths in long-term relationships
3:20 How common is roommate syndrome?
4:42 The 3% rule for maintaining connection
7:22 Using connecting questions to deepen intimacy
10:03 The power of a yearly getaway
13:00 Sponsor: Hot Monogamy Society
14:28 Recycling connecting questions over time
15:50 Addressing and resolving resentment
20:11 Skills for tackling small issues early
22:27 How to work with Monica and her book
23:36 Free gift from Monica and closing remarks
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