We Never Said What Cheating Was — And That Was the Problem with Courtney Boyer, M.Ed., M.S
You've been stewing over something your partner did — or maybe you're the one who did something and keeps telling yourself it didn't count — and either way, nobody in this marriage ever actually wrote the rules down. After listening, you'll understand that most betrayals don't start with a choice to cheat; they start with two people who assumed their definitions of "faithful" were the same without ever checking. If this episode made you want to start rebuilding that physical connection, Dr. Diane's free video e-book gives you a step-by-step strategy to get there — grab it at mylibidodoc.com/libido-video-ebook.
Key Points
- Betrayal in relationships often stems from unmet expectations and a lack of clear boundaries or agreements.
- Creating emotional safety is a crucial first step in addressing infidelity and fostering open communication.
- Couples can benefit from working with a professional to navigate difficult conversations and set up effective communication strategies.
About the Guest:
*Courtney Boyer, M.Ed., M.S. Expertise: Courtney Boyer, M.Ed., M.S., is a therapist-turned-relationship coach, writer, and speaker whose work centers on love, desire, and authenticity. Courtney is the author of Not Tonight Honey and Opened. She has been featured in The New York Post, Cosmopolitan, The Huffington Post, and BBC Radio Live. Drawing on her background in mental health and sex therapy, she brings a unique blend of professional expertise and lived experience to conversations around relationships and identity. When she isn’t writing or coaching, Courtney can be found chasing joy—traveling, reading, or savoring delicious coffee and deep conversation. She is passionate about helping women break free from shame, reclaim their bodies and voices, and create relationships rooted in honesty and autonomy.?Courtney lives in Germany with her husband and three children, where she is still learning, unlearning, and writing the next chapter of her story. https://linktr.ee/coachcourtneyboyer https://tr.ee/2ofFKmEhSK
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Timestamps:
0:00 Introduction and overview of infidelity with Courtney Boyer
2:43 Misunderstandings, definitions, and emotional responses to infidelity
5:17 Assessing motivation and investment in repairing relationships
7:14 First steps: Creating emotional safety after infidelity
8:28 The role of initial agreements and assumptions in monogamy
11:29 Navigating conversations about boundaries and agreements
17:35 Sponsor: Dr. Joel Kaplan's penis pumps
19:30 Setting up successful conversations and maintaining emotional safety
22:33 Preview of part two and communicating boundaries
23:11 Courtney Boyer's free resources and pleasure practices
24:04 Encouragement to explore Courtney Boyer's work
24:18 Farewell, subscribe reminder, and how to connect with Dr. Diane Mueller
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