She's Not Broken. He Just Doesn't Know How Yet with Dr. Saida Désilets & Aaron Michael
If sex has started to feel like something that works for him and not really for you or you're the one quietly wondering why she never seems to get there you're not broken, and you're not alone. In this episode, Dr. Saida and Aaron Michael reveal why the orgasm gap has almost nothing to do with effort and everything to do with a system nobody taught you including why lasting longer actually means feeling more, not less. Take the free Orgasm Perception Quiz at mylibidodoc.com/orgasmic-perception-questionnaire to find out what your body might already be doing that you're missing.
Key Points
- Understanding pleasure anatomy and the differences between male and female arousal times can help bridge the orgasm gap in heterosexual relationships.
- Shifting from a mindset of performance to one of mutual pleasure and connection can significantly enhance intimacy and reduce performance anxiety.
- The suction sex method, which involves coordinated breath, movement, and pelvic floor engagement, can help both partners achieve a more synchronized and fulfilling sexual experience.
About the Guest:
*Dr. Saida Désilets & Aaron Michael Expertise: Dr. Saida Désilets wants to live in a world filled with audacious, sexually sovereign people, living life on their own terms. As a Tedx speaker, counter-culture creatrix, and author, her scientifically proven work on sexual sovereignty globally impacts professionals and the public. When not facilitating transformational programs, Dr. Saida enjoys leading Wilderness Safaris in South Africa and swimming in the Aegean Sea. Aaron Michael is your coach’s coach, helping others discover, explore and integrate their sex life by providing a no BS, pleasure-based sex education. He’s the author of medical & therapeutic protocols, the book Optimal Sex Life, creator of Bedroom Masterclass, and Founder of SuctionSexTM—an Enactive Sexual method that’s changing how the world makes love and how sex therapy and coaching is done.
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Timestamps:
0:00 Introduction, orgasm gap statistics, and guest welcome
1:14 The orgasm gap and intimacy
2:26 Defining and understanding the orgasm gap
3:07 Orgasm rates and relationship status
4:22 Root causes of the orgasm gap
5:34 Pleasure anatomy and mutual pleasure
7:00 Misconceptions about lasting longer
10:33 Overview of the AFAP program
14:23 Motivation, performance anxiety, and breaking the cycle
15:46 Sponsor: Dr. Joel Kaplan's penis pumps
17:44 Strategies to address performance anxiety
20:30 Active receivers and adaptive givers
21:38 Mental arousal and psychological triggers
22:10 Phases of engorgement and sexual response
23:48 Clever cock and clever pussy concepts
24:27 Preview of part two and upcoming topics
25:07 Techniques for deeper connection and couple’s toys
26:05 Free resources, Embodied Love University, and foundational videos
26:56 Closing remarks, appreciation, and reminders
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